The fact being that she does not know anyone any more is the most difficult. This is not the first relative for me to experience with this disease as my paternal grandmother had it. I remember one conversation which it took me about five minutes to use visual clues with her memory so she could recall who I was. In another situation it was 10 minutes. Each time I remember feeling how she was slipping away and it was going to be more difficult getting her to come back. I ended up ceasing communication because I could not mentally take the stress. She passed away at the age of 93 in September '07.
With Gran (husband's grandmother), she is being taken care of by her daughter every day at daughter's home. I speak with her daughter on a frequent basis and help when I am needed. It's frustrating as I once knew this woman as someone who had a fire and was quite able to handle herself when we were her caretakers. After the stroke everything just went downhill and it seems to be on a fast decline since. I suppose I never realized it could happen this fast and it's actually scary.
My husband made a comment the other day and I have to ask someone's opinion on this. Can a stroke actually mimic Alzheimer's stages?
I keep telling myself all I can do is take things one day at a time and that seems the best way to handle it. I've dropped my graduate classes from two down to one for next term so I can get a break there then will finish them up in summer. It's not much but it will allow us to do what is needed with the house as we need to clean and sort things out.
Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers, I greatly appreciate it.