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Reply to "Gran isn't doing well"

Dear Pooh:

I am so sorry to hear about your Gran. The speech damage is so very hard to deal with! Yes, it is difficult to watch our loved ones deteriorate...

Do not hide from the situation. Go see Gran and give your sister support! Bring lunch with you or order take-in. Communicate in other ways if you can. Once the ability to speak is lost, there is a loss of confidence etc. But, we can communicate through our love and hugs... I am not sure that the desire to live doesn't go simultaneously with these serious deficits.

I remember when my grandmother was in the hospital, I begged her not to die... She said to me "I want to die - I am so tired of life". I was able to let her go after that. She gave me a great gift which was making it okay for me to accept her wishes. Gran is not young and may or may not be gone soon. If not, that is okay but meanwhile let her know you are thinking of her and care about her - and it is evident that you do. Find the time because you will never regret it...

Good luck in school! Your hard work will pay off - and goals do not disappear because you spend time with those you care about. I think it is important now to hug Gran and find peace because of it... You are a loving person and so good-hearted!

Hugs, Glenda
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