Hi SK..., I can see that you have your priorities straight and sometimes we have to go through stuff to get to a better place. I admire your growth and that you refuse to remain in a unhealthy place...for you. I was the doormat for exes and was so codependent that if I could have I would have breathed for an ex husband. I was that bad. My last ex bf (who I cared for greatly) said to me during our breakup that "you think more about me than yourself". THAT was a wake up call for me, a milestone. I thought, "wow, he is telling me something that I couldn't deny". He even
saw it when I couldn't! He is my ex, but I still care about him even though our paths no longer cross. He was trying to help me see what I was doing to myself by not having enough self esteem and putting people (even people that were consciously hurting me) before myself. What the heck was that!? I now know and love the knowledge I have picked up about how to treat yourself and wish I had had those tools long ago. But it is never too late. It would be nice to have you at the forum. And hugs to you too. I hope Glenda and GRM will stop by sometime too.