Hi sq, I am fairly new to this great forum and just discovered your postings and what stood out for me was the date January 27, 2011...the day my sister died. It's been rough for me physically as the day after she passed on I developed weird ailments, a few one after the other and thank God they were mostly attributed to dehydration and not something chronic. I was so focusing on my sadness for the loss that I was not paying attention to my fluid intake. Something so simple yet can end up being so serious.
I understand about your friend (s) who downplayed what your mom and you were going through. I unfortunately just ended a relationship because of the lack of acknowledgement of what had just happened in my life, that wasn't the sole reason as there had been two other times that were very important that she couldn't be bothered. I didn't deserve this and would have never treated her that way. So I understand what you are saying. Of course there are toxic reasons why my friend behaved the way she did...but in my growth as a person I realize that it is not my place to make excuses for anothers behavior. It's sad and it hurts! But life will go on and true friends (I believe) will be right there by your side as much as possible. Thank you for your story.