Hi Skwirl, People do change, we all change...the problem with my ex friend and I is that I grew and she hasn't. She is in a unhappy marriage and both drink. We haven't seen each other in years as we live on different coasts, but until about two or maybe more years ago we talked frequently and that stopped on her end. I know the reasons only she is in denial and defenseive, all characteristics of an alcoholic sad to say. We have to keep the postive people in our lives and weed out the negatives in order to maintain any sense of normalcy in our own lives and if it means giving up a long time friend, then it has to be. I feel better without the
stress and dance that I have been experiencing with her the last couple years. Some things are just not worth it. In this case it was a hard but necessary decision for me to make. I am glad you are feeling a sense of relief because when caring for someone,and in your case someone very close to you...you will need all of your emotional and physical strength to perform your caregiving. Thank you for your understanding post. It makes me feel like someone out there understands and knows first hand what I have been feeling. it's nice to know we are not alone and deserve the respect given to others.