Even though I do consider myself pretty empathetic, I know that my care-giving years really opened my eyes to a lot... It was very painful at times and not many of my friends wanted to hear about it all during that period either. My father was injured in a home invasion which changed everything for him. He recovered quickly from the broken hip that caused only to learn that he was fighting cancer. He was on hospice twice and there was not a lot of family or friend support during those challenging periods. (TG for the great hospice workers out there!) I think it is hard for some to face human frailties so people would rather avoid the conversation.
Because it is not unusual for a care-giver to feel alone in the job of care-giving, support groups can be a good place to go to get through the rough times... Here is a link where a person can click on the state and it will give the care-giving resources in that area @: http://www.caregiver.com/regionalresources/index.htm Of course, I am not sure where to look to find support groups in your area. However, it is good to know what your area offers and there are certainly more resources available these days. Anyhow, Sqwirl, I felt much the same when I was in the care-giving position. Support is so important and we are here for you... You are an angel to be there for your mother and we all know the sacrifices, stress, and time involved. Hang in there dear heart!