You're not befuddled... my mother does have MS. About a year into her stay at the frail care they discovered a lump in her breast and immediately sent her for tests. It was confirmed she does have breast cancer. They removed the lump and continued treating her with medication to make sure it doesn't come back. So far she has been on the meds for almost two years and there has been no further scares.
The weird part about my mom getting breast cancer was the complete lack of response from our entire group of friends and family. I spread the news diligently so that ma could get as much support as possible, and the responses i got were near to non-existent. No-one seemed to be bothered, I guess its because ma has been dealing with MS for so long, breast cancer didn't seem that serious. Stunned my mind.
Months later another friend got breast cancer and the shock and worry was deeply felt, when I told her that she should first see how serious it is, it may be like my mother's that it could be a case where the lump could just be removed and then treatment with meds, she was surprised that my mother had it... then remembered that I had told her, and simply said 'oh, I guess we didn't really think about it, is your mom okay?' Nice one - I suppose when a lot of the time there is no good news to share about ma, people become desensitized and don't really respond anymore with compassion. Very sad.
Anyway, back to the trenches.....