You are truly a wonderful, loving daughter. Your mother is blessed with your caring and concern. I, too, am sorry that your brother is unable to be involved in your mother's care-giving at this point. It is not unusual...
I have a twin brother who very seldom visits or helps with any repairs on the house and feels very okay with leaving it all on my shoulders for some reason. It seems, or so I have learned in my situation, that family dynamics from childhoold resurface during our care-giving years which hand us another burden to deal with. It is strange - but true. I finally ran to get counseling myself because it was one more thing to deal with that was difficult to comprehend for me.
Counseling has been reassuring when dealing with these sibling issues. I have learned that there are issues that are not mine... That makes it much easier to identify sibling issues and let them go...
You are doing good work and are there for your mother. You will never regret this time with her. Just please take care that you do not overdo and become worn out yourself. Your mother would not want that for you and it is common among us care-givers. Take some time to yourself and take care of YOU during this time.
Love and Hugs from Glenda
[This message has been edited by glenderella (edited 11-05-2005).]