Thank you for all of the insight and advise. It it not that I don't understand where he is coming from or that I cannot change him. I do. It just hurts me to know my mom would love so much for him to be around more. Also, it is just so physically difficult for me. I really do not mind the emotional part. I love being there for my mom and would be no other place. It is an honor being able to help her in any way I can.
I and my mother are receiving a lot of support from her many friends as well as from my sister who does what she is able. I am truly grateful for this. Thank you for reminding me to focus on that.
Thank you also for the suggestion about the paragraphs. I appreciate the support and advise, especially from a spiritual perspective. I appreciate your taking the time to respond to my message and for your coming from a place of acceptance, love and appreciation.