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Hello Jamie...

welcome... I am sorry that you and your mother are in such need at this time and that your brother is not capable of being there for either one of you.

You said. "This is difficult on all of us, emotionally, spiritually and physically and we should all be working together. " if you can truly understand what spiritual means., you must understand that you cannot change another no matter how much you want to for your mother or for yourself.

Perhaps he hasn't gotten over the loss of your father.. perhaps he is not able to heal and rebound as you have chosen to..

the fact that you have others including his wife to help out is so much more than others have from their family members... there is karma and all the divine of the higher power at play here.. you can be hurt and continue to get upset or you can move into a more compassionatge support for him... but on a spiritualy level.. you surely must know you cannot change or force him to be there...

how can you shift your energies and focus more on thins to be be grateful for.. how can you transform the givens in the relationships at hand into more meaningful ones with what exists.. how can you not get as caught up with your brother's notparticipating into helping to heal your mother's need by supporting her on all those around her who are coming from love that are able to be there for her...

please take a deep , surrender and do the best you can with what is given... find your own inner peace... in doing so, you will serve your mother even more for she will pick up on your own peace, understanding and surrender with your brother rather than feed her upset with your own...

this is a time to focus and move into providing a quiet, loving environment for her.. I know you have it all within you... please accept that he just can't be there as you wish him to be...

please keep us posted....

gail

ps.. i know you are upset.. if in the future you could write with paragraphs it would be easier for many of us to read your posts...

thanks..)
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