It is hard when our spouses are not there for us due to health problems. It is even more difficult when you are as sandwiched as you are. I hope you are taking care of yourself also - but something tells me that you will laugh at that comment... The weakness of caregivers is that everyone else comes first!
There is help out there. One volunteer group is Faith in Action. They are located in almost every state. Check and see if there is a Faith in Action volunteer group in your area. Perhaps you could arrange for them to help with your mother and husband. Their website is:
You need help and support I think. Do call Faith in Action and get the forms to fill out for their help. Then try to seek out a support group for caregivers to help you cope... Meanwhile, know that we are here for you TexCee...
[This message has been edited by glenderella (edited 10-27-2007).]