Cheri, Maybe your father is experiencing some anxiety over getting in the shower or simply "afraid" of the water coming down on him. Maybe you can get your brother to stay with him in the bathroom while he is in the shower? But I agree with Robin, if all else fails resort to bed baths. My mother who is 89 now, has Alzheimers and was deathly afraid of the water hitting her. It was such a challenge for me to get her in the shower. I finally gave up and had an agency send someone in to put her in the shower. That worked although mom gave her a rough time and screamed through most of it. Although your situation is different, a stroke victim can experience many of the same fears as Alzheimers patients. Just a thought but see if your brother can stay with him in the bathroom, if not either a bed bath or an agency coming in to do it. Maybe that will help. Good luck!!