I am so glad to have read through your posts. It's a relief just reading other's sharing. I'm feeling so frustrated and tired tonight. I can identify with my house being in such a mess that I don't even know where to start and it is totally so exhausting.
It seems my mother continues to have one medical issue after another. I'm so tired. So often I feel I am doing a less than adequate job caregiving. But I'm tired and overwhelmed and my house is a mess.
My brother really doesn't seem to understand. When I try to reach out to him for support he tells me "What do you expect --- she's nearly 80 years old." Or claims to have many responsibilities of his own, too, raising his family.
I don't have answers for you. But it is a relief knowing I am not alone. And from that I can draw the strength to go on. I tell myself "One day at a time." I am inspired that if others can do this --- then so can I. And I can do this a little at a time. And when I have the energy or the opportunity little things around the house get done.
God bless you and your efforts and give you the daily strength you need to lovingly accomplish your priorities for now. Know in your heart what is right and don't listen to all that extra chatter. (I guess I'm talking to myself ,too.)
Take Loving Care of you!