You asked about my other sister. "J" is a registerd nurse. Keeping that in mind...nurse...medical knowledge, compassion, empathy, kindness. good heart...last year, when I realized I needed to make a change in mom's living arrangements, I went to my sister's first and asked if they could take mom. Her answer was no, I don't have an extra bed. I found that pretty amusing, sine she has 3 bedrooms up; one they sleep in and the other two are offices, one for her and one for her husband. They do NOT work from home, strictly pleasure. And that was that. Now recently I have learned that she is still working her full time position (administration at a healthcare insurance group) and just recently took a job at a local nursing home, working as an RN, on the weekends---are you ready for this?? on the dementia floor. Needless to say, I have very little use for J.