My mom has been wearing disposable undergarments for close to five years now. My dad never wanted her to wear diapers. In his mind, it maintains mom's dignity to wear pull on panties. So, we have been buying the Assurance brand from Walmart. They have different levels of absorbency. They pull on like regular underpants and are comfortable. She has not suffered from rashes, sores or any discomfort.
Walmart's brand of panties are just as good (if not better) than Depends and they cost less than ten dollars for a package of 18 to 20, depending on the absorbency.
Your husband might feel better wearing something that doesn't resemble a diaper. It's really a personal choice but it's really important to be sensitive to what the person wearing them wants.
I hope this has helped just a little.
[This message has been edited by Irish152 (edited 04-30-2006).]