Mom is ready

Today we had a (one day early) birthday party for Mr Pip, and even though Mom hasn't been eating much of anything the past few days and even vomited early this afternoon, she had a wonderful day.

The temperature got up into the high 60s, the sun was out, the sky was blue with puffy clouds, and Mom got to sit in her transport chair out on the back deck which overlooks some white birch trees (her favorites), a weeping willow, a grove of blueberry bushes, and a small garden pond with a fountain gushing water. Oh, and birds...lots of birds....

She enjoyed the wind in her face, and pronounced it the perfect day....

Before putting her outside we changed her into one of her favorite nightgowns before bundling her up, then changed the bedding so the sheets and her nightgown matched...yellow...one of her favorite colors....so when she came back in the house she was pleased to see that everything was color coordinated.

Later on she told my SIL that she was now ready to go.

I don't know how long she'll be able to hang on since she's no longer interested in food, and she didn't even want her favorite food, ice cream, today, although she's still drinking liquids, but I imagine even that will stop at some point.

Today was the first time in ages she's looked truly at peace.
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Hi pipik....

I'm so sorry....although we all know they do go to a far better place...
I used to be the type of person who felt we should all hang on no matter what...but after seeing the pain and suffering of several relatives in recent years...and how they AND us get to the point of wanting them to "let go" ...I have changed my whole outlook on things...
Of course we miss them afterwards with everything in us..but we soon learn to remember the good times...and the fact their suffering is over...

Please post again and let us know how you are doing...
PrairieGal
Hi Prairie Gal...

Mom wasn't doing so well this AM, but when my SIL and BIL came over, she insisted on sitting on the side of the bed and "dangling", then she wanted to sit in her yellow chair. It took a lot out of her...

the hospice nurse came today, took a look at Mom and announced that she would now be coming every day instead of only Monday, Wednesday and Friday, so I guess Mom is really on her last legs, so to speak.

Earlier Mom had a vomit episode which I'm still trying to figure out...she's been vomiting the last couple of days, mostly bile and stuff because she hasn't been eating anything, but today she vomited up some green/yellow liquid that my SIL said had brown "things" in it...looked almost like blood clots with bits of organic tissue hanging off the sides, she said (I didn't see them) and I can't find anything on the internet to tell me what they might be, although I suspect that they're probably exactly what they look like... blood clots.

Mom is resting comfortably after her bed bath from the home health aide and looks peaceful enough but it's disturbing for us to see her breathing stop every so often.
Hi pipik...

Oh that must be so hard on you...it's like their bodies start falling apart and you just want to put them back together again...sadly we find out we can't...
Do you find yourself wavering between different emotions at this time...like anger...sadness...fright...?
I did when my mom's condition had worsened to the point I just knew the end was almost near, yet a part of me stayed in denial.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your mom...
PrairieGal

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