A week ago yesterday we brought my MIL to the hospital after a couple of days where she started getting hostile and combative. We found out she had a UTI (which has since been cured) and one or more symptomless (except for extreme confusion) strokes, but the doctor was concerned about a pleural effusion and did a needle aspiration and biopsy.
The fluid is exudate, meaning it could be anything from pneumonia to a tumor/cancer, but we still don't know yet.
She went to a nursing home Thursday and we plan on taking her back here in a couple of weeks.
My frustration stems from the fact that as many times as we've asked and asked and asked about getting hospice care to come in, the doctors (both her own and the nursing home physician) are reluctant to give her a prognosis that would enable us to get hospice here at home.
She is five months shy of being 94. She has COPD and CHF...diabetes....she had a couple of strokes...has mid stage Alzheimer's, and possibly has lung cancer (although we don't know yet).
Why is it so difficult for someone to look at all of this and be reluctant to speculate that she could indeed only have six months left????
All we want is a little help here to make her last days (months) easier and not filled with stress when things start going downhill and there's nobody here but me and Mr Pip to deal with it!!!!
very angry and disappointed