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Skwirl ·
Hello Frankie Welcome to our safe corner of cyber space! First off deciding to place your loved one into a frail care facility is a very difficult decision, its emotionally draining to say the least. When the care recipient is not willing to go or stay - that makes it 100 times worse. I had to make that decision in Oct 2008, and its taken over a year for things to finally settle down and my mother to accept her 'new home'. She was VERY anti to it and took out her anger, frustration and fear...
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Frankie ·
Thank you for your kind words of understanding, Skwirl. It truly does help to know that I'm not alone. I used to try and visit almost everyday but now realize that it's not so healthy for me when she has episodes like I mentioned. I know that you know what I mean. I will try to post about the "good" visits as well. There are times when we make each other laugh and those are precious moments. Take care, Frankie
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Skwirl ·
Dear Frankie I agree! The good visits are really precious. I know for a fact I would never be able to visit my mom everyday (even if I physically could) because emotionally it takes huge amount out of me each time. I arrive with high hopes and in 2min my hopes are dashed and I know its going to be a tough visit. Don't feel bad at all about not visiting everyday, I certainly couldn't and I know of many others who also can't manage it, try by all means to make each visit as pleasant as you...
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glenderella ·
Hello: Welcome Frankie! You are not alone... My 92 year old mother is also in a facility (frailcility - lol) of her own choosing - TG. My father passed away a few years ago after a difficult time with cancer and dementia issues. I was his main caregiver for almost six years. I visit my mother on holidays mainly and I know I should see her more often - but it is difficult... There have been many different family issues that have caused serious rifts over the years. I do think that care-giving...
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GRM4LOVE ·
Welcome Frankie, While I never had to place my parents into a home, I know the difficulty and what you are up against. I think both ladies have shared from their experiences.... it sounds as if you are really handling it all well. I think as our parents age, we find daily losses that we experience... with a dementia it is even more difficult so as Glenda says, it's important to enjoy the good ones .. and as you know let go of the not so good ones and don't take them personally... you have...
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Frankie ·
I just found this wonderful place and need to share tonight. I am the sole care giver for my  almost 90 year old mother who has dementia among several other illnesses. I moved back to my home town a few years ago and was taking care of her while...
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